Macho "woman"??????

How feminine can a guy be, before he is labelled a "Gay", or in odd cases, a "Lady"!! :)

The question may have been a tad too sexist, but, is totally relevant. This however, has no reference to the metro-sexual path that many guys seem to be taking these days. Those are of course the cliches, and far too obvious to be considered an "issue". The reactions to occasional manicure, pedicure or facial, ranges from being frowned upon to varying magnitude of offensive-to-"man"kind, lacking the you-know-what and in some cases, even "Unnatural". Come on, some guys just wanna stay clean. Being rugged, rough, unclean or burly doesn't necessarily save you from being gurly...! :P

And of course, the universally accepted unmanly thing. Being associated with anything "Pink". Men hate pink and women love 'em. And thus, Pink is not just the girly color, it violates your existence as a MAN! :) Yup, no pink shirts, no pink watches, no pink phones, no pink anything. Of course, girls may dig those pink cheeks on some cute guys, but that's the only excuse to be associated with the color.

But how much ever we deny, any guy would have a tinge of "softy" in him. Of course, the amount varies. It's like the threshold for pain, or the tolerance for gore. It varies in each guy, but definitely evident in all, at least in traces. As an obvious choice, I'd have to make myself the guinea pig here for sample. :)

Here it goes.

I can't deny that my eyes may have welled up during an occasional movie here and there. Of course, breaking down to tears is not my thing. I just stop at slightly moist eyes.That's where my "threshold" kicks in. :)

I like couple of Lavender Shirts, as long as it isn't pink. Of course, I strive hard to prove that it ain't pink. When you can;t convince them, confuse them. And if that doesn't work either, live in denial. Pink is definitely  not part of the rainbow and That's my threshold. :)

I may have caught a few daily soaps a while. But that have been more out of curiosity stemmed out of the abysmal levels of silliness of these shows. I can never stand these otherwise, not even if I have nothing else under the sun to do. What I could enjoy are sitcoms, reality TV, Candid Camera and ocassional dramas.  That's my threshold. :)

I may have sat through a few Rom Coms and yearned, "Why couldn't they have ended up together?", or "Why can't that b@#$ understand him?". So what? I just liked the movie, and got pretty involved. Probably a bit more than I'd have liked, but whats wrong in being a bit expressive. But again, no tears of joy, or tears of any kind. That's my threshold. :)

I may have occasionally taken more than 20 mins to choose the right pair of jeans. Well, that's cuz I like buying the best and be sure about it. Not cuz I wanna get a better pair than my friend, or to be that I make heads turn. Just to be plain sure that I get a good pair. But again, I don;t venture beyond those 20 mins.. :)  I have my threshold. :)

I have blushed a few times at compliments. Well, quite a lot of times actually. :) Who wouldn't like to hear a few nice words once in a while? I'd get super excited if someone thinks that my car is dashing, my game is cool or my driving is racy. Oh yeah.. that's a guy thingy. But I don't turn all rosy and strange-faced when I hear one. I don't crave for one every hour. I don't care what people think about my weight or my hair or my face. That's my threshold. :)

I don't mind an occasional gossip. Information is knowledge, knowledge is power. A harmless bit of news exchanged here and there is empowering. And of course, this information needs to flow, if you don't want to end up being the "kuen ka mendak" (literally reads, frog in the well).:)  But the average standard of the content of such exchanges are usually better when it changes hands via guys, and it's not always blooming affairs or cynical jibes. (One exception is that, a gossip involving a Hot Chick is always an exception. ;) ) Also, we usually know better when something has to stay a secret. That's my threshold. :)

But some stereotypes will always remain, in me, and in any guy who is proud of being in Adam's bloodline. We don't hug and make up, unless we are drunk or on the field..! :D We love naughty jokes, fart jokes,add-"in the bed"-at-the-end jokes. and anything remotely funny that involves, kicking, crunching or smashing of the nads, and we would go to any extent until we L Our FAO!!  :D We would never compliment another guy on his looks, but nor would we turn back and curse the same guy..!! :D We don't use long tresses of a another as a weapon during our fights. We have "Man"ly ways of dealing with violence..!! :D We are never confused while choosing between a cute puppy and a Smokin' Blonde..! :D

Keep the man in you alive. Keep him kicking. Keep him the king. Let the girl in you make a Nicer Man, but not beyond that! :)