friend
[frend] 
Show IPA
Show IPA–noun
1.
a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
2.
a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter
3.
a person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile.
Quoting from the dictionary doesn't, by any stretch of imagination, define what a friend is. After all how can a uni-dimensional inanimate bunch of words and meanings define a term full of life zest and complexity. Friend, Dost, koottukaaran, nanban, well whatever you call it, the word holds a lot of value and gravity.
My life has been a mixed bag. I have been very close to many and a friend to many. Now one may ask, "why the distinction?" Of course there is. A friend is not a mere acquaintance, not a mere relation; it has to be moulded between two souls and woven into a bond.He he.. :D now the added embarrassing dose of philosophy owes its origin to the solitude that I am undergoing right now! My pics on FB or the amazing time that I am having may not truly explain this statement. But before i really clarify I should lay out how this works.
Guys can be broadly classified into 3 kind. First, the ever so common, life-is-fun-so-get-a-chick-or-get-drunk kind of folks. They don't really run on emotions. Its just "fun" and a good level of alcohol/girls/movies/games/travel (or all of these) that drive 'em. They don't really need a "friend" friend. All they need is someone to get drunk with, someone who thinks that a Megan Fox or a Deepika Padukone is hot, someone to go places and do stuffs with. As long as he has "that"' someone he could count on, he will always be happy. Every guy has this bit in him. (Ref. : Def. no.. 3)
However, not all guys are dogs, only around 80% are.. (Yup thats true :) ). So counting this kind out, we are left with a considerably smaller population. They, however, are the complex ones. The ones who need fun, yet need a bit of emotional drive to thrive on. They 'd definitely need a support who would be there to consume and more importantly, conceal, his joy, his agony, his pain and the "secrets". Yup, the stress is indeed on the "conceal" part, cuz guyz are guyz! and they'll never let any sort of weakness, that might tarnish their "Machismo", be visible.
This myth is kind of very obviouz, and the make-belief kind of works. Like, in the conversation between Manny and Ellie in Ice Age, when she suspects that something is bothering Diego, she says "May be you should talk to him." Manny quips "What??? guyz don't talk to guyz about guy problemz. We just hit each other on the shoulder"! Well.. probably this is why these guys are more comfy revealing their manly escapades to everyone, but not the meek emotions. (Ref. : Def. no.. 2).
Strangely, girls understand this part of a guy more than a guy. Cuz girls show patience and understand the fact that guys are after all human, unlike guys, who think guys are wild animals and that a crying guy is.. well... a girl! :D Any attempt to seek solace will be welcomed with taunts! :)
Now the third kind is at the other end of the balance. This tribe comes with a tag of being "endangered", yet you may bump into one at every stage of life. They are extremely emotional, and tend to "pour out" a lot. They are harmless as long as they choose the right person to confess to. But when one of these guyz go on a spree, that spells doom. I, and many more I know, usually stay away from 'em. But then, its their way of living. We ought to respect 'em ( Yep.. I too am trying to be the noble gentleman with the afore mentioned "respect".) (Ref. : Def. no.. 1)
The fun quotient as well as the population decreases exponentially as you move from the first kind to the last,though this order may not signify which is the right way to be. They co exist, they cross paths, sometimes shed their innate nature to be a "better" social being. But given their day, they 'd choose their own way of life, right to many, wrong to others, fun to many, boring to others! It just doesn't matter.
Well then the million dollar question comes.. Where do I belong in all this!! Of course that introspection was the trigger point of this piece. Well I guess I'll leave it for others to decide.. ;)
Guys can be broadly classified into 3 kind. First, the ever so common, life-is-fun-so-get-a-chick-or-get-drunk kind of folks. They don't really run on emotions. Its just "fun" and a good level of alcohol/girls/movies/games/travel (or all of these) that drive 'em. They don't really need a "friend" friend. All they need is someone to get drunk with, someone who thinks that a Megan Fox or a Deepika Padukone is hot, someone to go places and do stuffs with. As long as he has "that"' someone he could count on, he will always be happy. Every guy has this bit in him. (Ref. : Def. no.. 3)
However, not all guys are dogs, only around 80% are.. (Yup thats true :) ). So counting this kind out, we are left with a considerably smaller population. They, however, are the complex ones. The ones who need fun, yet need a bit of emotional drive to thrive on. They 'd definitely need a support who would be there to consume and more importantly, conceal, his joy, his agony, his pain and the "secrets". Yup, the stress is indeed on the "conceal" part, cuz guyz are guyz! and they'll never let any sort of weakness, that might tarnish their "Machismo", be visible.
This myth is kind of very obviouz, and the make-belief kind of works. Like, in the conversation between Manny and Ellie in Ice Age, when she suspects that something is bothering Diego, she says "May be you should talk to him." Manny quips "What??? guyz don't talk to guyz about guy problemz. We just hit each other on the shoulder"! Well.. probably this is why these guys are more comfy revealing their manly escapades to everyone, but not the meek emotions. (Ref. : Def. no.. 2).
Strangely, girls understand this part of a guy more than a guy. Cuz girls show patience and understand the fact that guys are after all human, unlike guys, who think guys are wild animals and that a crying guy is.. well... a girl! :D Any attempt to seek solace will be welcomed with taunts! :)
Now the third kind is at the other end of the balance. This tribe comes with a tag of being "endangered", yet you may bump into one at every stage of life. They are extremely emotional, and tend to "pour out" a lot. They are harmless as long as they choose the right person to confess to. But when one of these guyz go on a spree, that spells doom. I, and many more I know, usually stay away from 'em. But then, its their way of living. We ought to respect 'em ( Yep.. I too am trying to be the noble gentleman with the afore mentioned "respect".) (Ref. : Def. no.. 1)
The fun quotient as well as the population decreases exponentially as you move from the first kind to the last,though this order may not signify which is the right way to be. They co exist, they cross paths, sometimes shed their innate nature to be a "better" social being. But given their day, they 'd choose their own way of life, right to many, wrong to others, fun to many, boring to others! It just doesn't matter.
Well then the million dollar question comes.. Where do I belong in all this!! Of course that introspection was the trigger point of this piece. Well I guess I'll leave it for others to decide.. ;)
